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==== On this page we will copy and paste our personal responses in an effort to share them in a paper free manner. If you choose to respond to any of the posted essays, you may earn up to 10 extra credit points. Please be sure that your posted essay or response has your name attached so that you can receive credit! ==== = = =** Personal Response 1: What is friendship? How does it differ person to person? What does it take for someone to become your friend? How do you know when a friendship is over? **=

What is friendship? As a 33 year-old woman, you might think that I have this in the bag; that I have it down to a science and keep friends easily. But the truth is, I don't. Sure, I have a couple of close friends, but aside from my sister, no one that I can call up on a moment's notice to vent about my day, watch my kids, or hang out with. The truth about friendship to me is that is is really difficult find true friends. When the going gets tough, or life changes, friends will leave for greener pastures. (But maybe that's just my experience.) The only true friend I have ever had is in fact, my husband. When the going gets tough, he's always there. I can be moody and demanding and blunt and many other things, but he is the only person who has ever looked past that, or put me in my place. Friendship differs from person to person in many ways. I think we each have our own expectations of what friendship is. I have seen lots of friends come and go, so to me, friends are those that I can hang out with on a Saturday night, and am lucky to see every two months. They are the ones that I can debate with, or just hang out with. They are not my "best friends", but people that I like being around. For others, they need that one best friend, or they accept people who don't meet their standards of living, but are "good enough." That doesn't work for me.
 * //Mrs. Alguire://**

I guess that leads to the next question, "What does it take for someone to become your friend?" At this point in my life, I find it very difficult to be friends with someone whose values are not reflective of mine, but that being said, I try to be as open-minded as possible. I'm not looking for a best friend or someone who will be that go-to person. I have that in my husband. I'm just interested in people that have the same type of personality as me, and like some of the same things. Having kids definitely helps, but they have to at least like mine! LIfe is too busy for me so I need someone who understands that and can hang out with me anyway.

Boy, I have had my fill of ended friendships...Probably most recently was my best friend from high school and college. That was probably the saddest friendship end that I have ever had. She was my go-to person, she got me and accepted me for who I was. But, when life changed, she couldn't handle it. She couldn't have more than one friend at a time. The indicators came years ago, but we were always able to pick up where we left off. It was after I had my daughter, Katelin that things went downhill fast. When no matter how often you contact someone and reach out, they don't reach back, it's over. When they don't get what you have going on in your life, it's over. Whey they don't share the bigs things with you, it's over. When they don't remember your kids' birthdays EVEN THOUGH they were at the hospital when they were born, it's over. It's sad, it's unexpected, but it's part of life. I have learned that there are few people I can truly rely on in my life, and if I remember this, I will never be disappointed in friendships again.

Friendship is a valued relationship between multiple people who believe, think and do the same activities as you. Friendship can come from childhood play dates to you high school teammates. It’s the ability to laugh and to create memories that will last a life time. Friends are the people that you can tell everything to and who you trust with your secrets. They accept you and can love you, even with your dark side. No one is perfect, but a true friend can look though the darkness to see your inner beauty and light.
 * //Jordie Hayes://**

Friendships can differ from friend to friend because of how you met them and the adventures you share together. From your friends you known your while like, the ones who you had tea parties and dressed up as princess together to your teammates who worked together every Friday night to bring home the league championship title. Two very different group of friends, but still loyal and wonderful friends, none the least.

I had two different best friends, at two separate times and they both ended in tears and heart ache. I will be friends with anyone who is nice to me and is a good person. If we have something in common that makes it much easier to get along and to have something to talk about. I believe it’s just better to be friends with everyone and not to become extremely close to anyone; less pain in the end. I have friends and teammates but I don’t have any “close” friends. There are pros and cons to this way of thinking. I don’t have to worry about being back stabbed or being used but its hurt to be alone every weekend. I know that a group of your friends are going to the movies but you weren’t invited. I don’t know which is better. I just know how horrible it feels like to cry yourself to sleep night after night because your “best friend” hurt you so bad.

You can tell a friendship is over the moment it happens. When that one friend crosses the line too many times or when you find out they were never your friend in the first place. You can feel it in your heart. You can feel your heart slowly break, trust me, I know how it feels. I know maybe a little too well. It’s one of the worst feelings anyone could ever know. It sucks to know you well never simply hangout together with them. Your inside jokes are gone and so are all the good memories. You feel lost; you don’t know who to talk to, where to sit at lunch or when you’re going to feel okay again.

Friendships are one of the most important things in life, especially in high school. It a group of people you can feel completely comfortable with. It the people that can make you laugh until you cry or make you laugh when you’re about to cry. Friends become your second family, the one you got to choose. They are the one who bring out the best in you and are there even when the sun isn’t shining or maybe when the ice is a little too thin. They got your back, no matter what.

Friend ship to me is having someone you can tell anything and everything to. Not many people in High school can say that they have a true best friend. Someone who you can tell all of your secrets to and they won't tell anyone, it's highly unlikely now a days because no one really knows what it means to be a best friend to someone.
 * //Ashley McClelland://**

Friend ship differs from person to person and group to group because we all are different individuals so one group of friends is going to be different than another. Some friends and groups of people have all ways been around each other so they they will be closer than a group of friend that just started hanging out. Over time your friends change though, not very many people still hangout with the people they did in middle school. I feel like our generation is way different than previous because we don't really keep the same friends for very long. Part of the reason is technology. When we hangout we are usually on our phones, computers or any other electronic device, that makes it had to be social with our "best friends" so they are not really our best friends because in reality we do not know very much about them.

For someone to become my friend, it really does not take much. I'm a positive person with a nice attitude. If someone just came up to me and started talking I'm sure we would become friend st some point. To be my friend though you must be a loyal, nice, caring, and fun person. You know a friend ship has ended when you don't speak to the other person when you seem them in the hall. You don't hangout with them or even smile their way and they do all the same to you; I feel like once a friend ship has ended there isn't much you can do to help make it come back to life. So always keep your true good friends close.

//**Nathan**// **Weeks:** To me friendship is liking to be with someone, trusting them, and wanting to be around them. Having a bond between you that you don't want to be broken and would truly hurt you if it was. Friendship can differ from person to person in many different ways. Some people may think friends are just people you hang around to fit in or be " cool ". Others may think of it as a way to seem popular and please themselves because they think they have " friends". And others may take it as just people you hangout with for no reason, you do it just to do it.

In order to become my friend I have to be able to trust you. If i cant trust you with what I'm saying, I don't want you as my friend. Another is you have to like me for who I am. I am not going to change who I am so you will be my friend, we should both be who we are and that makes a friendship that much better. Finally you have to be fun to be around and have a good personality. No one wants to be around someone who just sits there and does nothing. It is not hard to be my friend you just have to be trust worthy and like me for me.

When a friendship is over it is not a fun thing. Letting go of someone you trusted and had a lot of good times with is hard. The causes of ending friendships may differ from just an argument or doing something behind your back to them getting into drugs so you have to end it yourself but the ways you know its over is usually the same. You both stop talking to each other and stop communicating overall. You know its over when its awkward to pass them in the hall or to hear their name in a conversation. Losing friends is a hard thing to do but sometimes it has to be done.

//**Hannah Atwell:**// Friendship is a valued relationship with one person or various amounts of people. In a friendship you trust and honor the other person/people. In my opinion, friendship is the inseparable bond between you and the others. Friendship is powerful and can strongly influence your decisions, for they are your friends and you do take their opinions and actions into consideration. With your true friends, you know you can always be honest, in a way friendship is made up of honesty.

Friendships differ from person to person simply because there are all kinds of different people in this world. Some people might be friends because they have the same standpoints on many issues and therefore they can sit and talk about it for hours. Other friendships may be based on beliefs, religious or non-religious. Friendships are based on many things depending on the people involved. There are many contributing points to a friendship, it all just depends on the wants and interests of the friends.

In order for someone to become my friend they have to be honest. We can all agree that nobody wants a friend who lies to them all of the time. They also have to have some of the same basic interests as me. If they don't then there is the lack of connection and that person just remains someone that you like and are nice to, but they don't exactly qualify as my friend. A person also has to have some common sense and be at least a little bit smart. But, common sense is definitely a necessity. It doesn't take much to be my friend. In the end it all depends on if the feelings of friendship is mutual or not.

I think you know when a friendship is over when you don't feel the same about th person as you used to. You get out of a relationship what you put in, and if you don't feel the same or like them anymore then you aren't going to put anything into the relationship. At that moment when you realize you just can't handle what they did or if you just flat out don't like them anymore, you know it's over. Sometimes it's hard to end friendships, and sometimes it's easy. No matter what the situation is, there is always that turning point where you just //know// that it will never be the same and that your friendship is over.

//**Ethan Barnette:**// Friendship to me is a relationship with someone who you just like being around. Someone you can share a good laugh with, or share your inner-most feelings to. My group of friends have changed over the course of my life. But they have changed most throughout highschool. Friends got girlfriends, thier attitude changed, or they got into drugs. That being said, I've kept friends that i've had since third grade and made new ones in highschool. Friends come and go, but true friends are always there when you need them.

Friendships can vary greatly from person to person. People come from different backgrounds, races, ethnicities, religious views, and classes. Friendships vary because people are different. Theres no other way of saying it, everybody is unique in thier own way and in that way is how they form their friendships. Honestly i think the biggest factor in friendships is comon interests. If you like the same things as a person there is a strong possibilty that you may become friends.

To become one of my friends at school, isn't that hard. Cause i just try and be friends with everybody at school. But, to be one of my friends that i actually make an effort to be around and hangout with, that's a different story. I have to like you inside the school for one, if that happens you're on your way to becoming my friend. Two, i have to trust you at least in some way. Three, we have to have some common interests. That's probably one of the biggest factors, cause honestly who wants a friend that you can't talk to or do things with cause they dont enjoy what you enjoy. Those are the three biggest steps to becoming my friend.

It's pretty obvious when a frirendship is over. When you dont share the big moments with them anymore. When you dont feel the same around them. Or when they forget your birthday.

Friendship to me means being happy with the people around you. Friends are people who like to spend time with you, who know you and your humor, and can tell when you’re happy or sad. They care about you enough to be concerned when you’re facing seriously problems and aren’t afraid to help, even if you don’t ask. Friendship is something everyone should be able to find wherever they go.
 * //Marissa Balderrama://**

Everyone has different tastes, whether it be in movies, music, games, etc. It’s very rare that people who are into different things will hang out together. Not impossible, but rare. Therefore, many groups of friends will have the same interests or hobbies, stuff they can do together to have fun. People always search for other people who have something in common with themselves. It makes for easy conversation which could lead to more in depth and personal ones.

I prefer to be friends with people who like to have fun without going anywhere. My friends are people who are shy and quiet in public but when alone together are loud and goofy. They have to be honest, not afraid to speak their minds about people or things, even if it’s little mean. It helps know that you can trust them and that they trust you. Plus a little constructive criticism can go a long way, especially from people you know.

All people change, some more than others. Sometimes these changes affect the people you want to be around. When your friends become distant or want to do things you don’t want to do, they tend to drift away. Sometimes it’s quick, an unspoken agreement saying they no longer want to hang out with you. Sometimes, though, it can drag on and on. Weeks go by and you try to spend time with them but you no longer have fun together. After a while you both just ignore each other. This is the saddest way for a friendship to end. But sometimes it’s unavoidable. Friends are important to have; they can help you discover what type of person you are. They help you when you’re down and true friends can keep any secret. Friends are what keep people social and challenge you to do better. Without friendship life would be dull and lonely.

Having a friend is spending time with someone you enjoy being with. You don’t have to know the person well, just like to be around them. Knowing a person comes after a friendship starts. Friendship differs for everybody. People choose friends on likes and dislikes. If you can't talk to someone, you will be hard pressed to be their friend. They choose on the ability of the other person to make them laugh.
 * Rachel Hicks: **

For me, I consider a person a new friend if I bother to remember their name. Others may think friendship only comes with years of spending time together. I find that good friends can be made in the matter of a week or so. My example is when i went to a week long summer camp. I made a few friends that I still talk to now, months later. Not much is needed to become my friend. I generally try to be a friendly person. Before a friendship starts with me though, I need to know if the other person wants to put in the effort of starting a relationship. Friendships do take effort, its not a simple job, thats why losing friends is so common.

I don't recall a time when I have ever just broken off a friendship. All my ended friendships have just drifted apart. Many of my friends have just become acquaintances before I realize we aren't friends anymore. I know when a friendship is over when you can't remember why on earth you ever liked them. Many people say it's when the other person doesn't remember your birthday. That is un-true for me, I only remember a friend's birthday if it has been years. Right now I can only think of two of my friend's birthdays. Friends are done only when you or your friend decides it's not worth the effort to keep up the friendship.

Rachel Hicks in response to Ashley McClelland: I agree partially that technology ruins friendships. You shouldn't spend time with someone if you won't even talk to them. When you hang out with someone, texting a different person is plain rude. A friend should be a person you can talk to for hours without any interruption. I am split however, because technology brings people together. Social websites let people stay friends over long distances. Plus, have you ever gone on a gaming spree with a good friend? It's a great bonding experience.

//** Anna Conley: **// From my perspective, friendship is a bond between two or more people that usually have common interests, goals, hobbies, or beliefs. They are positive towards each other and help one another out in time of need. They care about one another and put that person and their needs before their own in most situations.

For someone to become my friend they have to have certain qualities and characteristics. It is essential for them to be kind and supportive to encourage me when I'm down, honest and trustworthy in order for me to trust what they say and do, and laid back because I don't appreciate friends who are constantly stressed out and rub their negative energy off on me.

Friendship differs from group to group because other people may have different qualifications that someone needs to meet in order for them to be their friend. For example, boys in general tend to be rough and rude when they speak to their friends. Although I do not understand it, they usually push each other around a little bit and hit one another just to be dumb. However, most girls are much more sensitive and avoid physical contact because feelings get hurt and friendships fall apart.

I realize right away when a friendship has come to an end when that friend and I cannot seem to do anything other than bicker or fight. We slowly lose contact although we will never forget the memories we shared. I believe that some friendships, just like relationships, are simply not meant to be for many reasons. The biggest reason being the clear but complex fact that people change.

Anna Conley in response to Ethan Barnette: I feel like our responses to this friendship paper had many similarities. We both discussed how people change, how friendships start from similarities and common interests, and how it is fairly easy to tell when a friendship has come to a close. Also, we both talked about how trust is a very important factor in friendship. I agree with you on your paper as a whole. You have many true statements that I can definitely relate to my life. You did a really good job capturing my attention, as a reader.

p.s. Yes, that would suck if a friend forgot your birthday.

//**Brett Fuller:**// Friendship is an enduring bond between people that is strengthened by moments together. In a true friendship, one must trust the other person entirely. Friendship can differ from person to person. Many people will be friends with anyone that is nice to them, while others will be friends with people that are more popular than them. Some people are friends with others that are just fun people to be around.

To become my friend, I have to be able to trust that person. If I cannot trust someone, then I do not want to be associated with that person. I must also have a connection with that person. Honesty and being semi-smart are also important to me because I want friends who will tell me the truth and who also don’t qualify as a moron.

You can tell when a friendship is over when you don’t feel the same about that person. People will eventually change and grow apart from each other; this is where friendships end. Many people slowly drift away from each other after a period of time, but only the closest of friends will stand with one another and only get closer.

//**Brianna Ducham:**//

The real definition of friendship is a relationship between friends. Is that really all it is? no. It can be so many other different things to different people. If you were to be in my shoes you would think friendship is mainly based on loyalty and honesty. Anyone can be your friend, but not everyone can be your best friend. I have had many friends in my life come and go. Life never guarantees they're going to be there forever. I think friendship also means that eventually one day one of your friends are going to do you wrong, and your choices are to let it slide and move on, or hold on to that grudge forever. I've learned to live and let go, because friendship is a big roll in my life and I hate to see someone walk out on it.

I don't think you can just define any persons relationship because we all have different relationships that we just can't honestly describe because that's usually how you know you have gotten close with someone. I have some friends that I joke with constantly and we never take anything seriously. I have other friends where you have to be careful of what you say because they can get easily offended by every little thing. It's not really just friendship that explains it, it can really just be with the person you are around. Like I said before, the main points of friendship are based on loyalty and honesty, in every friendship that should be required. You cannot call someone your friend and not have them be there for you when you need them or catch them in multiple lies. Just think wisely about your friends from this point on.

I could go on and on about what friendship is because it can vary it so many categories. Let's just say that you'll know the difference between a good friend and a bad friend when you're really trying to figure it out. I don't really think it matters on how many fights or arguments you have been in with a friend, I think that it can just make the bond even closer because it helps figure each others differences. The main point is the purpose of a friendship is more like a feeling because you cannot always see it, but it can be felt by the heart.

//**Alex Neeley:**// Friendship to me is really quiet simple: do you enjoy talking to them? Do they enjoy talking to you? Are you happy spending time with them? And do they feel the same? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may have a bad case of friendship! But never fear, it's not lethal! In fact, friendship can really improve you life! Humans are social creatures, even those who prefer solitude need a bit of interaction once in a while. No one wants to feel lonely and left out all the time ... that's why everyone needs and deserves at least one great friend.

Friendships can differ based on when the relationship started or how. For example, I interact //very// differently with my school friends than the friends I've made while cosplaying at anime conventions (yes, I go to anime conventions, there's no shame in that!). I feel more comfortable with my friends here at Montrose, I can talk to them about anything, I do things with them on a regular basis, and so on. With my cosplay friends, because I don't know them as well, we only do things together at conventions, and when we talk it's generally about cosplaying, anime/manga, or the next convention --- we don't talk about our lives or anything truly personal.

How do you know when a friendship is over..? Wow ... this question really gets to me. I had a lot of friendships end in the recent past, no matter how many times it happens, losing a good friend never gets easier. I really can't consider many of my "friends" from the time I lived in Phoenix friends (or even acquaintance) anymore. Why? We just grew apart, and I suppose moving across the country didn't help one bit. But there were two girls, Jamie and Katrina (who where my absolute best friends), who said we'd still be good friends no matter what. We still talked all the time, I had a free message board style website for us and a few other friends to talk and play games on ... but when I went to Phoenix over the summer to visit ... I wasn't comfortable with them anymore. We were too different, we didn't have anything in common, we had been apart far too long. I knew our friendship was over when it was too awkward to talk to them and when I could no longer relate to anything they did or said ... it was awful. But you know what? That's okay, even though friendship may only be temporary, as long as it was fun while it lasted -- it was worthwhile. Besides, new friendships will always be popping up where you least expect it. Why dwell on past friendships when you have great friends *right now*?

//**Brooke Williams:**// Friendship in my eyes is a relationship between two people that is out of the norm. I do not believe that a friend and an acquaintance are the same thing. We all have those people that we talk to in school and laugh in class together but are they really your “friends”? I think a real friend is somebody that is ALWAYS with you and will forever be by your side.

Honestly, every friendship is different. I am different with all of my friends. We all have that one friend you can trust with your life and then we all have that friend who is just a blast to hang out with. Different friends mean different relationships. I’m not saying I don’t think you can trust more than one person but I am saying that it is okay to have different friends for different things. All friends have different aspects about them that make them important. All friendships are different. No two friendships are the same.

To become my friend you have to be loyal. There is nothing worse than a friend who turns their back on you or is two-faced. Throughout my life I have learned to be picky about friendship. I let too many people become my “friends” that were never real to me. My friends need to be honest with me. I want to know when I have something in my teeth and I want to know when a shirt makes me look fat. A true friend can tell you those things in a way that won’t make you mad or embarrassed.

I think friendships can be more hurtful than relationships. Friendships tend to last longer and hurt deeper. In my opinion you know a friendship is over when they betray you. It is the absolute worst feeling when you think your friend has your back in a situation and you find out they never did. Its embarrassing. I’m not a very hard person to get along with but I have zero tolerance for back stabbers. Therefore any friendship I have will be over when I get stabbed in the back.

Brooke Williams in response to Ashley McClelland: I totally agree with you on your first paragraph. Not many people can say they know what true friendship is. So many friends are lost and replaced in High School. Believe me, I know all about it. I also agree that every friendship is different. I can honestly say that I have never felt the same way with two friends. All friends have different aspects about them that make them important. I really like your paper, good job! (:

Friendship is an easy thing to obtain, but it becomes difficult for people to define it. Friendship is an important aspect of all people’s lives. It is what helps keep us together as a society. Our friendships are like allies between countries. We trust them to protect us, we will protect them, and we will stand by each other. No matter what friend it is, you will be there for them when they need it. But some friendships still differ from one another.
 * //Noah Vandefifer//**

We all have our best friends. We have those friends we do everything with and those ones where when you see them in the hallway you run to catch up to them. And then there are our friends who are more just acquaintances. You can carry a conversation with them when you see them, but you aren’t going to go out of your way to hang out with them. Although the links we share between these groups of friends may differ, the qualities we like them for wont. I look for trust, honesty, respectful not only to me but to themselves, and most of all fun. Once people take their different qualities they look for and find a match, they start one of the greatest substances in life.

Sometimes all of that greatness comes to an end. We all gain and lose friends throughout our lives; it’s just what comes with it. Just face it. When I lose one of those people, you just have to be able to see that you aren’t their friend any more. When I lose a friend, I can tell they are ‘gone’ when I am not jealous anymore. We all feel left out and jealous sometimes when we see our friends doing something without you, so when you can see someone and realize you don’t care that you weren’t there, that’s when you know. At least that’s how I do it. Of course it hurts when someone is out of our lives, but with every person that we lose touch with, we gain another friendship with someone else.

Friendship is a relationship between two beings that share common interests, beliefs, and hobbies. It is the connection between two things that can become inseparable. Friendship makes tasks easier to accomplish as a society because if no one got along, the world would be an even more cruel and harsh place. One will fight for another no matter the circumstances. I treat most friends like family.
 * Dakota Jelinek**

From person to person friendships differ because everyone is different. What some friends may find fun or compatible, others may view it as immature and stupid. I have different kinds of friendships with each of my friends. My best friends, in which I participate in almost everything with, and then I have friends which I only have a few similarities with, like a sport.

To become my friend you must participate in many of the activities that I do. I can tell if we can be friends from the first five minutes we meet. If we share some of the same interests we are more than likely to get along. Sports are the easiest way to get on my good side because I am a fanatic. If you play football, welcome to the family, because that's exactly what we'll become.

A friendship is over when you can't look at the person as you once did. They would have done something so inconsiderate and childish that it ruins an entire friendship. Whatever it is, whether changing crowds, or changing who you are, it wont be easy. Losing a friend can be like losing a brother or sister. The friendship is over when you no longer are able to consider talking to that person in hard times for advice.

__//**Mattie Emmendorfer**//__ Friendship to me is then two people or a group of people are in complete trust with each other. They can tell each other anything. They can hang out without having to go pay money or something like that. They just use the resources they have, things like jokes and laugher are even better. The thing with friendship in the way it differs from person to person is that some people think it’s those people you just see every day and have a few conversations. They may not realize that a true friendship involves more to it sure as honesty. To other people friendship is everything and they see it very important and its nice to have that one person you can tell things too and get things off your chest.

For someone to become my friend I would say that at first meet you’re my friend till you show me that I cannot trust you with anything. That you are not a very honest person and that you can come to me about anything. They should not have a reputation that can bring me down, I don’t like when people bring me down if it is not a much needed situation.

The way you can tell a friendship is over is when the very sound of their voice makes you want to run up to them and smack them and it just kick them over and over and over again. You can also tell when they just ignore you when you are around or just stop talking to you in every way, shape, and form. There are probably many, many more ways you can tell but these are the specific ways off the top of my head.

__//Kirsten Miller//__ Friendship, in my opinion is when you trust someone with every detail of your life and not worry about eveyone finding out. Also when you know that no matter what happens that person will always be there for you and not judge you. Friendship differs from person to person because one persons idea of what it means can be completly different than someone else's. For example if a person isn't a very good friend, and feel's like telling people all your secrets then thats not a real friend. But hopefully most people feel like being a friend is always being there and not telling your secrets, at least that's my view on what a friend should be or act like.

For a person to become my friend, I have to be able to trust them with anything and know that no matter what happens it will be kept secret. But I have found that not very many people value friendship like they used to. With the world today it's very hard to come across someone whose honest and will be a good friend. So, to me I dont really have many true friends. The one's I do are very trustworthy and aren't going to desert me in a time of need, that is what friendship should be like.

It is kind of hard to describe when you know a friendship is over, mainly for me though it would be when a blowout fight happens. That's when most of my friendships have ended. A fight ususally happens over a friend becoming non-trustworthy or they randomly stop speaking to me because they have found a replacement for me. Many people in high school don't care about being a good friend, just try to use people for certain advantages. At least this has been what I have observed, especially around prom time I notice girl's all of a sudden become "friends" with a guy and after prom decide they never want to talk to them again.

Kirsten Miller In Response To Rachel Hicks: I feel the same way you do about being able to become friends with someone in a matter of one week. When I went to Europe last summer I barely knew any of the people there. But by the time we all got back which was about 19 days, I cryed saying goodbye to most of them. Friendship doesn't always take years and years to grow inseperable like many may think. I also feel that in order for a friendship to work and last both people have to want to put in the effort. If it's only one person trying to stay frinds that will never work and that would be when the friendship drifts apart like you said too.

Friendship, to me, is a relationship in which both parties benefit and have a good time together. Friendship is when two people genuinely enjoy being around eachother. Friendships are as diverse as the people who have them. Some "friendships" are the fake ones where they don't really communicate and share feelings and the other kind are the normal ones where they hang out almost everyday and help eachother out.
 * Josh Haney:**

For someone to become my friend, the have to just be a good person and always be happy. I hate people that always dwell on the negatives of every situation. You also have to be a genuinely nice person with good morals. A friendship is over when you both stop being able to stand eachother and cant return to where you used to be. If you find yourself talking behind your friend's back a lot, your friendship is probably over or your just not a good friend. When you start to not talk or hang out anymore is usually the point at which you call it quits.

Josh Haney in response to Mrs Alguire: It seems as you get older, more and more friendships start to wither away. You all start your own families and lives and tend to forget about the people you grew up with. If your friendship lasts through middle school, high school, and college then, chances are, you will be friends forever. The thing is, we are seeing less and less of those friendships these days because of shady people and the economy being the way it is. People have to move to different states for their jobs and careers and your friendships tend to take the back seat to their lives, which ultimately ends or weakens your friendship.

Haley Reich: Friendship to me doesn't mean a whole lot. See friendships end. Friendships happen when you find a common thing between yourself and that person. Even if it is as simple as liking the same ideas or sports, you have something to build off of. Today though, friendships can mean very little to people. Now, it’s all about who has whose back or do I trust you or not. Yes, those are important things but you can’t base a whole friendship off a past experience with someone. People can change; people can mature.

For someone to be my friend, I have to be able to talk to them. Depending on how much I trust them depends on what I talk to them about. My best friend knows everything about me. More because they've been there through a lot of it or have just seen how it affected me. To be my friend you have to accept me, no if, and or buts. You have to understand that I know I’m hard headed and have very honest views on things that I will stand by. But I like to be friends with people who challenge me. Who help me see the world through different eyes.

A friendship to me ends very quietly. I mean that as not a huge fight or an argument. See if they can’t stick through the rough times were they ever truly there for you from the start? I've had fights with some of my closest friends where honestly I never thought they’d be my friend again. But we had to grow up together and realize people make mistakes. But friendship can be over when the other person changes. If they change who you thought they could be or they travel down a path you choose not to travel. Separating yourself from their life style can only better you. Remember not all friendships are meant to last; to me some are just there to teach us to grow and learn from our past.

Haley Reich in response to Brett Fuller: I agree with you when you say how you think people should be able to hold a conversation with you. At the same level of intelligence as you. You wouldn't want to text someone who spells every word wrong when you spell them right. It becomes annoying. Also I like when you said you know a friendship is over if you don't feel the same about them. To me it just makes sense to not be around someone you think differently of now. You just never know what people will do which is why trust is key to friendships. Those people who say they have best friends then say well I have trust issues to me doesn't make sense and maybe you can agree with that.